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A while ago I was interviewed for an article about being fired from a job because of my weight (it was NEVER published, but that’s another story and note to self you’re an excellent writer you don’t need others to tell your story). In the interview I explained how that experience was a pivotal moment in my life and the reason I became a member of the Obesity Action Coalition. The author sent me a draft to fact check (yes it was that close to completion and nada), and had written that because of the experience I am now a fat activist. I asked her to change fat activist to obesity advocate. She responded a bit confused.
So you advocate for obesity?
I explained I advocate for individuals affected and living with obesity. Why is that confusing? Sorry, not sorry, but I have never identified with being a fat activist, while I do in fact support the work of the fat acceptance movement, my focus has always been different and I’ve never been welcomed within the community.
I’ve got some real honest to God battles to fight, I don’t have time for the cosmetic ones. – Admiral Fiztwallace, The West Wing
For those who do, great! There is a lot of work to be done, and there is room for everyone. What is disappointing is being shut out of conversations about fat acceptance because of those differences instead of coming together by our shared goals.
Body positive? I’m positive my body is slowing robbing me of my quality of life.
Tomayto Tomahto I say obesity, you say fat. (I actually say fat too, see the name of my blog) However, there is no reason to call the whole thing off.
In my work as a lymphedema and lipedema advocate I advocate for many people not like me, my lymphedema is secondary to lipedema. However, I advocate for ALL lymphedema patients, those with primary lymphedema, those with secondary lymphedema due to cancer treatment, young and old, male and female, upper and lower extremities. There are often debates about which lymphedema treatment is most effective, pumps vs MLD, or new surgical options. I say ALL treatment needs to be covered by insurance so patients can make the best treatment options for themselves.
I approach obesity advocacy the same way. No matter the cause of the obesity, every individual deserves to live a life free of bias. They deserve bias free access to employment, education, and healthcare. The three aspects of life I believe are vital to overall health: physical, emotional, mental.
I believe healthcare is a personal matter, a person has the right to decide if and when they seek treatment. No one should have any treatment forced upon them, nor should anyone be shamed for opting to pursue treatment.
But that is what is happening.
I understand if YOU do not want to be labeled a disease, or a disability. But for some of us, especially those of us with advanced stage lipedema aka lipo-lymphedema, that is our reality so please don’t take our label away.
Please do not tell us how to self-identify. That is the opposite of acceptance.
And please do not belittle and attempt to shame us for succumbing to society’s pressure of what an ideal body should look like. Or scold us for using “bad words”.
We are talking medical terms here, and we are fighting for our lives. We could use some allies.
We are not worried about being able to find the latest fashion in our size, we are too concerned about finding underwear and shoes to fit our extremely large and misshaped legs and feet. I don’t show my arms because I’m brave, I show my arms because few shirts with sleeves fit over them.
We worry about losing our mobility, and it’s not that there is any wrong with needing a wheelchair or mobility scooter but often those that can support our weight are wider than ADA requires for doors. Our issues, like our weight, are beyond what most people can even imagine and thus we feel as if we are being forgotten.
And like the rest of you, we are awesome people. We’re smart, educated, work and/or volunteer…we have a life worth living and worth fighting for.
Most of us are relatively healthy, but the medical conditions we do have are worsened by lack of access to care due to weight restriction on equipment or the bias we face from healthcare professionals.
Wanting to change our bodies does not mean we hate ourselves, quite the opposite, we care about ourselves and our health and we need awareness of our condition. We need to reach those who are suffering without a diagnosis, and we need to be a part of treatment options being developed.
We need people to care, and if we cannot find that alliance within the fat acceptance movement then where else do we turn?
My goal for 2014 was to have at least one speaking opportunity. I achieved that by being selected to give an Ignite at Fitbloggin’14. In addition, I presented at the Your Weight Matters National Convention, and was a Patient Panelist at the Mayo Clinic Social Media Week. The Summer of Sarah, as I deemed it, was a whirlwind of activity highlighted by my appearance on the syndicated television show The Doctors.
So how could I improve upon what I had accomplished in 2014?
A TEDx Talk of course! And thankfully the university I attended, Nova Southeastern in Fort Lauderdale, Florida, hosted a local TEDx event: TEDxNSU. The theme for 2015 was Perception and I immediately thought of how I could apply my story, my advocacy to the theme. With the help of a friend, whom I met at Fitbloggin, I focused my topic and my message and submitted my application.
I chose the title Breaking Bias as a hint at the popular television series Breaking Bad because perception was a key element in that plot. But overall because my message, my idea worth sharing, is that we must end the weight bias that exist in healthcare.
I’m confused, or rather disappointed, by the Kelly Osbourne Fashion Police departure. Perhaps Kelly is using this controversy as a way to exit the show that she already wanted to leave, I hope that is the case, otherwise there is a clear double standard.
In case you missed the news, Kelly announced she is leaving the show after the controversy over co-panelist’s Giuliana Rancic’s Oscar night comments about Zendaya Coleman’s hair. Quick recap, Coleman debuted her new dreadlocks on the Oscar Red Carpet, and Rancic said the Coleman looked like she smelled of “patchouli or weed”.
Rancic was quickly taken to task for her comments, for which she issued an apology to Coleman.
Coleman issued her own response to Rancic on Instagram.
So here is where I get confused…
For years Fashion Police founder and star, Joan Rivers, made inappropriate and disparaging comments about people’s weight. Specifically she made cruel comments about Adele, and when asked to apologize Rivers flatly refused saying Adele “should just calm down, or lose weight” because it’s humor. As someone who spoke up against Rivers comments, I was told I just needed to lighten up, after all that is River’s “style of comedy”.
Same situation occurred when Charles Barkley made fat shaming comments about the women of San Antonio He flat out refused to even apologize for offending people, and defended his comment as comedy, part of the nature of his show. This all took place during the time when Clippers owner, Donald Stirling, was removed for his racist comments.
Disparaging comments about race result in public outcries for people to apology and/or lose their jobs, while comments about weight are defended as entertainment?
Here are my two favorite points from Giulianna’s apology:
“I just want everyone to know that I didn’t intend to hurt anybody. But I’ve learned it is not my intent that matters; it’s the result. And the result is that people are offended, including Zendaya. That is not OK.
This really has been a learning experience for me — I’ve learned a lot today — and this incident has taught me to be a lot more aware of cliches and stereotypes, how much damage they can do, and that I am responsible, as we all are, to not perpetuate them further.” – Giuliana Rancic
Individuals affected by obesity, such as myself, are often judged based on stereotypes perpetuated in society. Jokes like those made by Rivers and Barkley only perpetuate stereotypes and assumptions like obesity is due to poor lifestyle choices, or that people affected by obesity are lesser or not worthy as their normal weight counterparts. Weight bias and stigma is not a joke, it’s not funny. It is harmful, especially in the workplace and healthcare.
Sure the intention might be one of entertainment, but when it is pointed out that those comments can be harmful, instead of issuing an apology these stars just issue even more hateful comments. And it’s accepted.
Giuliana issues an apology and yet there are still calls for her to be fired, and a co-host leaves the show? Kelly, of all people should see what a double standard this is, she has been harshly criticized for her weight, in 2010 Osbourne told US Weekly, “I took more hell for being fat than I did for being an absolute raging drug addict. I will never understand that.”
I’ll never understand how Kelly had such as close relationship with Joan, and never threatened to leave the show over Joan’s fat shaming comments or refusal to apologize, yet Giuliana’s apology is not enough?
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Today my story of living with lymphedema and lipedema airs on The Doctors TV Show. I taped the segment back in September, just days after my 37th birthday. I was suppose to be on a cruise with my sisters, but sharing my story to help spread awareness about lipedema and lymphedema was an awesome way to celebrate!
I was in the midst of my major advocacy trip in Washington, DC, which was a part of what I deemed the #SummerofSarah, when I was contacted by producers. So it turned into a whirlwind of travel, but worth every moment of the experience. I admit, as with any media opportunity I was on alert for any possible twist or negative spin that might be attempted. I once was not selected for a TV show because I was too happy and confident, usually the media wants to portray fat people as sad and miserable.
However, The Doctors producer had read my blog, so he obviously knew that my life was not sad or miserable, it was actually how I was was living my life despite having a chronic medical issue that caught his attention. The entire staff of The Doctors were so nice, and thanked me for coming on the show to share my story. Of course, I am VERY thankful for The Doctors giving me a national audience in which to share my story.
The actual doctors on the show thanked me as well, and I was impressed by the information they presented and the way my story was told. The segment was short and sweet: like me! It’s odd that I provided them the pictures, I told them my story, and yet I was still moved to tears when they played the video.
My story always makes me cry, I’m crying as I write this, its emotional thinking about how much I have had to fight to be where I am today. No one, especially those who live with chronic illnesses, should have to fight so hard against bias and stigma and insurance bureaucracy in order to live. But I fight because I can, I know others are not as strong as I am to stand up to the critics and naysayers.
“I could either get angry or get active, and I chose to get active and fight for change.”
What is my alternative? I have never let others’ opinion of me stop me from living the life I want to live, my body provides enough challenges, there is no sense in allowing outside influences to have a negative affect on me.
Living with lymphedema and lipedema is not easy, it’s a painful daily struggle that requires constant management. There are setbacks. I am currently recovering from an infection in my left leg. It’s my life, it’s the only life I know, so I make the best of it and I think those who know me personally would agree I do a pretty good job at living life to the fullest!
Again, I want to thank Nick, Dr. Travis Stork, Dr. Rachael Ross, Dr. Jim Sears, and Dr. Drew Ordon for allowing me to share my story with your audience.
This is a true story as told via Facebook posts, on how my mom’s boob won a pink KitchenAid mixer. Well more like how me talking about my mom’s boob on Facebook won a pink KitchenAid mixer. My mom is a 14 year breast cancer survivor, she is also the reason for why I am the confident woman I am. However, this story is not just about a boob (well two boobs, we’ll get to that later, but not like you think), it’s about the humor we find in life, even in challenging times, and the outpouring of kindness from strangers.
Me: Did she have two?Mom: No, she only had one, that’s why she had the fake tit.Me: I KNOW that, I mean did she have TWO FAKE TITS? If not, why the hell wasn’t it buried with her? Why would you have it? And why would you even consider finding it and using it?Mom: I know I have it somewhere. But I’ll get my own tit after the first of the year when I have flexible spending again.
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Director of Communications, OAC
SARAH BRAMBLETTE HONORED WITH THE OBESITY ACTION COALITION’S
“OAC MEMBER OF THE YEAR” AWARD
Tampa, Fla. – Ohio resident Sarah Bramblette was honored with the Obesity Action Coalition’s (OAC) “OAC Member of the Year” award during the 3rd Annual Your Weight MattersSM National Convention, Together We S.H.I.N.E.
As an OAC member since 2012, Sarah has dedicated herself to raising awareness of the OAC, weight bias and the disease of obesity. In 2014, Sarah was featured in the OAC’s publication, Your Weight Matters Magazine, where she provided readers with an in-depth look at living with lipedema. She was also the first-place winner of HealthCentral’s #LiveBold Anti-stigma Photo Contest. She is a lipedema, lymphedema, obesity, and health insurance advocate and blogs about her life experiences at www.born2lbfat.com. Sarah is currently working toward a master’s degree in health law.
Sarah has worked closely with the OAC leadership, other members and staff on a variety of issues in 2014. From weight bias issues to representing the OAC in the media, she has gone above and beyond for the OAC.
“I honestly cannot think of anyone more deserving of this award than Sarah. Since joining the OAC, she has continually raised the bar for what we look for in an OAC member. To Sarah, being an OAC member is not just simply joining the Coalition. She takes being a member in the OAC to a completely different level. The OAC is grateful for Sarah’s dedication. We congratulate her on winning the OAC’s most prestigious award,” said Ted Kyle, RPh, MBA, OAC Chairman.
About the OAC
The Obesity Action Coalition (OAC), a nearly 50,000 member-strong National non-profit organization, is dedicated to improving the lives of individuals affected by the disease of obesity through education, advocacy and support. To learn more about the OAC, please visit www.ObesityAction.org.
About the “OAC Member of the Year” Award
This is the highest OAC honor and is awarded to an OAC member who has gone above and beyond to help the OAC. The recipient of this award should be an exemplary OAC member and continually represent the OAC in their efforts to impact the obesity epidemic nationwide.
About the Your Weight Matters Convention
The Your Weight Matters Convention is a National convention focused on providing individuals with quality, evidence-based education on weight and its impact on health. For more information on the Convention, please visit www.YWMConvention.com.
“A picture is worth a thousand words, this picture turned out to be worth $500…
“I’s not whether you win or lose but how you play the game…
I never imagined a day at the pool with an underwater camera would lead to my story of living with Lipedema being featured on HealthCentral, nor that the contest would be an experience in itself. There are several stories to be told, the story of being fat shamed while at the gym when the picture was taken, the story of why I entered the picture for the HealthCentral #LiveBold contest, and the story of the connection I made with fellow contestant and second place winner Gabe Howard.
I became aware of the contest through the Obesity Action Coalition, I have been a member since 2012 and am known for being a strong advocate against weight stigma and bias. Upon seeing the contest guidelines, to share a picture of how you live bold with a chronic condition, I immediately thought of this picture. While I initially thought the picture made my butt look big, I quickly realized the powerful message captured in the moment. I crafted my words to fit the image and submitted it for the contest. I did not set out to win the contest, my only intent was to share my story. However, as voting continued I saw I had the potential to win and ramped up my social medial campaign to solicit votes.
One day I decided to check out the #LiveBold hashtag on Twitter to see which other contestants were promoting their stories. I came across Gabe’s posts, I had read his story and really connected. I began to follow him on Twitter and sent him a Tweet. I liked his story so much, that I started requesting that my friends and family vote for both of us. It turned out Gabe lived only two hours from me. Small world indeed, his father is actually from my hometown. Win or lose, I had made a new friend.
So then the announcement came and I won! My story was going to be featured on HealthCentral.com. This was huge, not only for me, but for the Lipedema and Lymphedema communities. The prize was well timed also, as I was preparing for my trip to Washington, DC to attend the National Lymphedema Network Conference and Lymphedema Lobby Days. I used the $500 Visa Gift card towards my hotel expenses.
So it turns out HealthCentral’s offices are located in Alexandria, VA and when they heard I would be in DC they invited me over to meet the staff, tour the offices, and lunch. I also filmed an interview with them to be included with my blog post, Living Boldly With Lymphedema and Lipedema
Lesson learned: Never underestimate the power of your story…or a picture of you in your swimsuit.
I shared my journey to health in the pool during my FitBloggin’ 14 Ignite in Savannah, GA. This was my first FitBloggin’ conference but it will definitely not be my last. Forgive my rushing, the point of an Ignite is to give quick information within 5 minutes, I excel at talking fast, I fail at getting to the point of a story within 5 minutes. Overall, I shared my story, I raised some awareness about Lipedema and Lymphedema and I found an entire new community of support and friends.
This morning I saw a post about Dear Abby on The Anti-Jared. Appears a young woman was told by her mother she couldn’t wear her bikini to the family pool gatherings. At first Abby suggested the woman should follow her mother’s wishes as it is her home and her rules.
But then Abby crossed the line and made assumptions related to the woman’s health and ultimately about the possibility her mother would be more proud of her if she “if you were less complacent and more willing to do something about your weight problem.”
If you have read my blog you know I have no issues with wearing a swimsuit, or about the face my mother instilled in me a sense a pride and self confidence.
So here is my quick response to Dear Abby that I left in the comments section. I plan on writing direct correspondence to her, also.
I have a medical condition called Lipedema, it’s an advance stage that includes Lymphedema. I currently weigh 400lbs and I proudly wear a swimsuit in public, on cruises, I’ve never been interested in wearing a bikini but that’s a personal preference nothing to do with how I feel about my body, because honestly I have plans on visiting a nude beach the next time I visit Florida.
And let me assure you my physician feels my HEALTH is fine, other than managing my lymphedema, all my other health statistics are in normal range. See I used to weigh over 500lbs, so while 400lbs is still morbidly obese being 100lbs less is still quite an accomplishment. As is the progress I’ve made in reducing the lymphedema in my legs. You should not be so quick to make judgmental assumption about the writer’s health based on her sharing her weight. It’s that type of stereotyping and stigma from society that keeps many people affected by obesity too ashamed to get out and enjoy life like this young woman is doing. Tell me would it better that she is so ashamed of her body that she doesn’t go swimming? Swimming is being active after all so it’s great that she is confident with her body and lives her life.
As for her mother, it seems the mother needs to be proud of her daughter no matter what size she is. I will tell you my mother is extremely proud of me and all my 400lbs, I have two college degrees and am working on a Masters in Health Law. Despite the challenges I have faced with my lymphedema and fighting weight stigma and bias in accessing healthcare and employment I continue to be successful and my mother, family, and friends are all very proud of me. And I am very proud of myself. Fat only describes me, it does not define me.